Blending therapy into your home

[Jen]

I was asked at a recent conference if ASD "took over our lives" at home- I had to really think for a minute how to answer that. I guess in some ways it has- maybe we just don't notice because we know of no other way to live- its our normal. But as i really listened to the question, I realized my answer- it becomes a part of our lives, but it doesn't rule our lives.  I wish I had an incredible sensory room like some families have- or great schedule boards- or whatever. The bottomline is I"M not that organized! But we do constantly blend supports into our home. Yes, we keep a family calendar (I don't know how anyone makes it without one these days!) and there are therapy appointments to keep- but I've learned over the years of dealing w/ ASD that 'therapy' doesn't have to be formal to be therapy. We've made adjustments like clearing out the big furniture in our basement (couches etc...) and putting in a big futon cover filled w/ beanbags (the sit on size, tho, to think of it a smaller sack and little ones could be fun, too!!!hmmm) for the kids to squishy sit in while playing games or hanging out down there. We play games like Battleship (super for the hands and also for trying to figure out what the other person was thinking when planting their ships!) and Monopoly (turn taking using a special interest in money and counting!) The two rather energetic dogs need walking - a more appropriate way to get out whatever needs to get out, rather than just 'pacing' the neighborhood- PLUS the connection w/ the dogs for the boys has been amazing. Household chores that include 'heavy work' (putting dishes or clothes away- lugging laundry baskets or trash bags...) are great and done together can lead to some quality time.  Share a special interest for more quality time- and look for ways that interest can be used to motivate your child through a task. Just talking- making a connection, turntaking conversation, can be huge!
I guess what I'm saying is that home supports/therapy can just become a natural part of your day and don't have to 'take over' your life. It's all in how you look at it.